8.14.2008

myths on dating // "you complete me."

This blog is short and sweet (it's rare that I use this few of words to share my view on something, so enjoy it!). Although it is a rather romantic idea to have one person "complete" another one, it's not the truth.

There are a few dangers present in this thought. First, it takes away from the focus of the work Christ does in us when we receive the Spirit (check out Colossians 2 for a description).

Second, even though men and women have opposites, they are still complete people independent from each other. If you believe otherwise, you'll find yourself waiting until you get married to start your life. Opposites can attract--but in the end, it doesn't mean that you have "completed" yourself if you find someone whose strength is your weakness. Similarities are sometimes underrated in relationships, but for long-term success, they need to be present.

And third, as a single man or a single woman, you are just as complete as if you were married. The church doesn't always do a good job of telling you that, and for that I sincerely apologize. Your worth is not found in another person, but in Christ--so live that out!

So just because Renee Zellweger fell in love with Tom Cruise in "Jerry Maguire" over this line doesn't mean it works in real life...and I think we've all learned that just because Tom Cruise says something doesn't mean it's very valid (for further evidence, search his name on YouTube).

4 comments:

Lyricality said...

.... but you complete me!

Amy said...

that's biblical heresy Julie!!! (i'm glad your love for me is rebellious)

Anonymous said...

Very nice posts on this topic. You should seriously consider writing a book as a response to all the books you saw in the bookstore where you worked. These posts could be an outline for the book. And your comment about masculinized women and feminized men, there's a book about that issue, but I forget the name of it. Oh yeah- thanks for using proper spelling, punctuation and grammar in your posts, it's much easier to read! :)

bethany said...

hey amy! great thoughts...keep posting. i miss you.